The quiet reason your life hasn’t changed yet

At the start of every year, we’re surrounded by the same message.

New year = A “new you”.

And while the intention behind it is often good, there’s a quieter truth I see again and again in my work coaching women.

Before you can get to a new version of yourself, you need to pause, and grant yourself permission to be that ‘new you’.

When life runs on repeat

For many women, life has been lived on repeat for a long time.

Work goals that serve the organisation.
Time and energy poured into supporting everyone else.
A full calendar that leaves very little space to pause.

And somewhere in the background, a persistent feeling, I want more than this.

That was me, not so long ago, when each year I thought this was going to be ‘my year’. The year when I got

More alignment.
More energy.
More meaning.
More time that actually filled y cup.

But wanting more doesn’t automatically create change.

Because when you’ve been living in a certain way for years, breaking the cycle can feel uncomfortable and filled with guilt. Not because you’re incapable, or that you are suddenly going to neglect everyone else, but because familiarity feels safer than the unknown.

So the year begins with enthusiasm… and slowly, life takes over again.

Motivation isn’t the missing piece …. Permission is.

One of the biggest myths about change is that it requires more motivation, more action, more discipline and more systems.

But most of the women I coach have these in bucket loads. What they struggle with the giving themselves space to think about what they want, and permission to go for it, without the guilt!

Let this year be different.

So if this year is going to feel different, let it start here.

Not with a dramatic reinvention.
Not with a packed list of resolutions.
Not with becoming someone else.

But with you giving yourself permission to choose, deliberately, how you spend your time and energy.

Choosing to carve out space for yourself.
Choosing to stop postponing what matters.
Choosing to commit to the things you’ve been telling yourself you’ll do “one day”.

Because one year of living with clear intention and focus can change everything.

Achieve success that feels like you!

Start by asking yourself, what does success look like for you? If you are not sure take my free Success Alignment Audit and discover your version of authentic success Success Alignment Audit — Tazmin Suleman